I recently was a victim of cosplay bullying. I was told that my Saturn cosplay was crap, and looked store bought. I was extremely discouraged. I have a lot of emotional problems, so this did not bode well with me. I fell into a terrible depression, which is awful because I just bought a house and was really happy. I was really afraid to post my photos from Katsucon. I was already insecure about my cosplays because of my weight. Sailor Saturn was a costume that my ex and I put together within 4 days before a convention called Senshi Matsuri. I wasn't particularly proud of it. We redid the skirts for Anime USA, and I still wasn't completely satisfied. Come Katsucon, I redid the bows, the bodice, the ribbons and the skirt. I was actually really proud of how it came out.
I had never been a victim of cosplay bullying. I haven't been bullied since middle school. It wasn't until I realized that the person who cornered me had previously mentioned that the cosplay community was "toxic" and "just like high school." I have to be honest, I've been cosplaying for 10 years. This is the first time in 10 years that I have received ANY sort of hatred.
It has become blatantly clear to me that it is definitely the type of people you surround yourself with when it comes to cosplay. If this person's experience is that the community is just like high school, the problem is definitely this persons self.
I am thankful that I had many supporters through this situation. I can't say that I am ready to jump back into cosplay. I'm still a bit damaged from it, but I'm definitely feeling a bit better.I told myself not to get discouraged, but alas... it's easier said than done.
That being said, I want to offer some advice to people. Don't allow yourself to be bullied. I stood up for myself and this person denied the fact that he'd said anything hurtful by saying I started the fight. (I called him an elitist asshole, because that's exactly what he was being.) Despite being completely degraded and hurt, I didn't let him step on me.
I hope that all of you continue your wonderful hobby. I hope that you have the strength that I just plain do not have at the moment. Hopefully this awful feeling will pass, and I'll be working on cosplays again. But for now... I'll be taking a break.
Peace and love,
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